511. April 6th…Charlie Sheen may Have “Tiger Blood”…but he’ll at least admit he’s Bi….

“Upstream” 2011

“Do well and you will have no need for ancestors.” – Voltaire

Transgress: “to go beyond limits set or prescribed, or go over a limit or boundary”…

many years ago I tried showing AKC English Bull Terriers…you remember…”Spuds McKenzie”…well the game of dogs was a game I was not well suited for…and whether it’s dogs…paper airplane making…egg tossing…sky diving…podiatry…the Highland games…invading small countries…porn movies…or really anything that involves more than one person with a little more than some interest…a set of protocols…rules…highlights and of course atrocities begins to emerge…

there is always a “Holy Grail”…something that elevates the holder to new heights…and puts a nice glow around them when they are standing on stage…announcing their announcements…pointing to…“those people”…who ”Helped make this possible” and those within the “Inner Circle”….yet who are not called….“those within the inner circle”…for obvious reason…it sort of reminds me of high school football…something I played briefly…and realized quickly my 13 year old…5 foot 2…105 pound body was also not suited for…

there are always those who win…and those who don’t…those who get close and get closer every time they try…and those that never will get any further than where they are…no matter what they do…as if perhaps the curse put on great…great…great…great grandfather Otto back in the old country …holds true…and the incantation applied to everyone with a drop of Otto’s blood in their veins…who knows…

I teach karate to kids…and within that very complex dynamic is always the conversation of…winning and losing…both of which have been defined as huge events…yet winning at a tournament…doesn’t mean anything other than…winning at a tournament…and losing at the same tournament means exactly the same…yet the second place mentality…which is losing…relinquishes the alpha status and dumps it right into the beta position…or if it’s 4th place…maybe even the omega position…and maybe the pattern for kids is the more you win the more of a winner you will be…I know that not to be true…winning consistently says you are either prepared…bigger and more aggressive…”game”…mom and dad want you to win more…there might be a legacy that needs to be upheld…or the kids pattern is…win = something with a positive result…don’t get me wrong…I advocate winning…yet I think winning for a child…all of the time makes them arrogant…deserving and entitled…

There is nothing like a great lose to allow us to collect ourselves…take stock in what we are doing and what it is really all about…if the source for the action is exclusively winning…perhaps the reason for doing is unimportant…lost in an end result…while the process becomes a blur…

The word “Transgress” is usually used in context along with …rules…codes and formats that are designed to keep the herd as a herd rather than running crazy on the hills…the bondries are often seen as laws that once one transgressed to a point…they pass beyond these…they now are at a juncture that is less than desirable…and maybe some name calling ensues….

Transgression also pulls people from one place…places them somewhere else… no longer in the path of freeway traffic…but in safety…security…a soft place…for them to see where they have been…move either to newer worse places or newer better ones…or a chance to return to the place before…most rehab counselors were once in rehab…that’s not a coincidence….it is always easier to believe someone who has been where you are standing at this moment…knows the same story…same characters same lies and truths…almost the same everything….than it is to believe someone who by saying they understand….thinks that understanding is = to experiencing….

good losses prepares us for good wins…failures do the same…sort of like chasing someone around a table…they can always end up opposite of you…and do  especially if you both run at the same speed…and think alike…but to fail/lose has a bitter taste to most…theme song could be Whipping Post by The Allman Brothers…color surely is black…atmosphere…slightly cloudy…perhaps fog…and damp….

but it doesn’t have to be this way…a win smells just like a loss…maybe a bigger trophy or a shinier medal…there may be more money in the envelop…but pinnicle…is as high as it gets cowboy…and so you’ve climbed Everest 4 times… big deal…it’s the first one that counts…don’t you think…the other 3 weren’t wins…they were repeats…

I guess I like the stories of the struggle rather than the win…the losses interest me far more than the garlands…and the parades…oh I like to win…but I’m fine when I don’t…and if I don’t and I really want to…I should have set that place setting…before anything else happened…

I shared with my students a quote I liked…” being first and right..is not always winning”….. though…losing can also be winning…everytime…it just depends on what the loss brought to the table compared to what the idea of winning took from the player….

“I’m bi-winning. I win here, I win there.” Charlie Sheen

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One thought on “511. April 6th…Charlie Sheen may Have “Tiger Blood”…but he’ll at least admit he’s Bi….

  1. Great post Robert! You are so right about there being nothing like a ‘great lose’ to collect ourselves and reevaluate what it’s all about. I still go back to what my dad always said: ‘It’s not wether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game’. Playing is the way we learn. You’re a winner, just being in the game.

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